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Fears can be a huge barrier to success

Fears can stop a person from their heart’s desire. They can make a person believe that they don’t have a chance to gain what they desire. For this reason, many won’t even try. Fear is a complex feeling. It’s cunning and very deep-seated. Fear is often subconscious and can often be so subtle that you don’t even recognize that fear is what is holding you back.

Here are 6 of the most common fears that people tend to have:

1. The fear of setting goals

The truth is, if you don’t take the time to set goals, then you can’t even begin to design a solid action plan in which to achieve what you are seeking to achieve. Without a plan, you’re simply hoping for the luck to win. This hope for luck isn’t a wise way to go.

All of this is a trickle-down effect because of fear of setting goals.

Failure to set goals results in the impossibility of creating a solid plan of action to achieve goals. With no plan, you’re not going to succeed.

2. The fear of failure

Too many people allow the fear of failure to disrupt their goals and plans. There are some important things to remember.

– The path to success is often littered with errors, mistakes, and failure. It simply goes with the territory.

– So what if you don’t succeed? Do you know what the consequences are for failure? Are they really that awful? Many who have the fear of failure don’t realize that the failure is negligible or at the most, a bit embarrassing, it may be a slight waste of time or resources, what’s the worse thing that can happen?

When seeking to get over the fear of failure, take a moment and ask yourself these questions:

What if I fail? What’s the worse thing that can happen?

Typically, not a lot, so go ahead and give it a try. Don’t let the fear of failure hold your success back.

3. The fear of asking for help

There are a lot of reasons that people don’t ask for help. They fear being rejected. They don’t want to look stupid, they are worried that it will make them look like they haven’t a clue.

The truth is, few people will achieve great success without the assistance and the support of others. Many people are happy to help if you just reach out and ask.

Many people hesitate to ask for help because they’re afraid they’ll be rejected. However, look at the various strategies and don’t hesitate to try some of the ideas.

Likely, there is more help than you realize at the ready, all you have to do is ask.

4. The fear of public speaking

At one point of time or another, many careers require public speaking or presentations. Especially if you’re working your way up through the corporate ladder. For many people, this is a huge fear. Many people state that they’d rather have a root canal than speak in public. While I’ve struggled with this, I now do so quite often and it’s not so bad.

There are a few things that you can do to alleviate your fear:

Practice just trying to sound natural.

Keep it simple, don’t use large words or terms.

Act confident from the moment you walk to the microphone. You’ve earned this.

Don’t stress about what you forgot to say, no one is going to notice it but you.

Don’t use notes unless you absolutely must.

5. The fear of looking stupid

Successfulness often requires us to go against the natural flow. You have to challenge the normal way of doing things and try something new. If it goes awry, it may draw ridicule from others.

Many people who are successful don’t care how stupid they look. They simply persist and get the last laugh.

Dare to be yourself and different. You may just find amazing success.

6. The fear of what others think

Many people have a huge desire to be accepted. This alone can cause a person to question and wonder what others may be thinking of them. Whether it be their business, plans or goals, a lot of people worry what others think. “What will the neighbors think?” “What will my church friends think?” there are a thousand “what wills…” that we worry about.

The truth of the matter is this. Most people are far too concerned about their own issues to worry about scrutinizing what everyone else is up to.

Besides, who really cares?

There are enough negative thoughts without having to worry about anyone else.

Stay focused on the goal and stop worrying about what other people think about the plan. If you focus on the right people, they’re going to be supportive of your goals and plan. You don’t need to pay attention to the others that are making you nervous.

Consider the value that you’re going to be bringing. Consider the results that you’re generating for your clients.

Be sure that you don’t sell yourself short.

Price your work accordingly so that you’re not losing hard earned money.

Consider the value that you’re going to be bringing. Consider the results that you’re generating for your clients. Be sure that you don’t sell yourself short. Price your work accordingly so that you’re not losing hard earned money.

While it may be easy to think that you’re indispensable, you’re not, ever. So do your best and find a way to cope. Remember, there will always be more opportunities.

As you overcome your fears, you’ll be more likely to overcome your obstacles and be more in control. It may not be easy, but you can do it. Fear is a deep-rooted feeling, but you can improve.

What fears impact your goals?

Acupuncture – An Alternative to Assist in Breaking Your Smoking Addiction

One of the most difficult things you can ever do is try and quit smoking. Fortunately, there are quite a few tools you can use in trying to accomplish this goal. Acupuncture is actually one of the more helpful tools you can try, and it’s quite effective in helping you break your cycle of addiction.

Foundations of Acupuncture

Acupuncture centers around very fine needles being inserted in particular points on the human body. These needles are supposed to stimulate the flow of chi or Qi throughout the person’s body, helping them and their natural systems be better regulated. A lot of folks are rather fearful of needles; however, the needles used in acupuncture are very thin, as the thickness is usually no more than a strand of hair, meaning the insertion is often unnoticed.

These needles get inserted quite superficially into the skin, and they stay inside the body while the patient is in a state of rest. Acupuncture works because it helps regulate the natural energy flow of the body, which can help calm down the mind, ease anxieties, reduce nicotine withdrawal and cravings, and even make the lungs stronger so they can have an easier time clearing tar, phlegm, and nicotine residue out.

A lot of smokers light up so they can deal with energy that is stuck in their body which might reveal itself as feelings of grief, anger, tension, or anxiety. Smoking cigarettes draws in warm air deep into a person’s lungs before the nicotine involved hits the blood stream, where it can work its way into the brain, providing a temporary release from negative emotions, leaving a person relaxed. Acupuncture can help regulate all this stuck energy by moving things along in many of the same ways that deep breathing or a few minutes of silent meditation might do.

Smoking lets someone feel relaxed, and quickly, although it’s a rather false benefit considering how the impact of smoking is far more harmful then the anxiety someone might undergo otherwise. In traditional Chinese medicine, it’s believed that grief is the emotion related to the lungs. Grief is a heavy energy, and a sad one that can easily get stuck, although puffing on a cigarette can alleviate it because the lungs are moving. It’s crucial to find different ways of getting this stuck qi moving. If you still smoke, take notice of how you’re feeling when you have a craving for something to smoke. Observe your feelings for stress of sadness. Spend a bit of time doing analysis to get to the root of your feelings.

Acupuncture, in particular auricular acupuncture of the ear, helps minimize nicotine cravings because it stimulates brain receptors where nicotine typically binds, meaning the patient gets a break from their cravings. Ear acupuncture might be done by a trained acupuncturist, but you can also buy ‘ear seeds’ that are small morning glory seeds placed on medical tape that get stuck on certain spots of the ear. You can also look into auricular acupuncture charts on the Internet and even look into the addiction clinics your community offers. Such clinics are typically free and might offer you a short acupuncture session or ear seed application in order to manage may various addictions.

One of the best benefits that any acupuncture session might offer you is how it calms down your mind while easing your anxiety. People frequently smoke in order to mask any feelings they don’t want to feel or deal with. Acupuncture can help move such feelings safely from the body. People often comment that after acupuncture, they have an easier time falling asleep, get more rest in their sleep, and even sleep longer.

Cleansing

As a final benefit, acupuncture can help the body physically remove nicotine and tar residue from within itself. That lets the lungs start feeling lighter, coughing happens less, digestion improves, and the voice gets less gravely. Your acupuncturist might prescribe helpful herbal formulas that can also help the lungs heal as you refrain from your smoking. One formula that any smoker, quitting smoker, or ex-smoker might want to take is known as Yang Yin Qing Fei. This particular formula is balanced perfectly with herbs that can help the lungs clear out and coughing to stop while lungs and sore throats experience less dryness thanks to the moistening effect.

In the end, the one thing that most accurately predicts someone quitting successfully is their genuine desire to give the habit up. Like many other addictions, the very first step is admitting that you actually have a problem, followed by the desire to change it, and then taking things one day at a time. I frequently ask my patients why they want to quit smoking. That might sound like a rather silly question. However, when a patient responds that they really want to make this life change, then their results are a lot better than anyone who answers that they’d like to give it up just because a spouse wants them to. The same goes for when they say it’s gotten too expensive or they just say that their doctor said they should. All of these are great reasons why someone should quit smoking, but it eventually comes down to an individual’s personal desire to change their life for the better.

This particular personal desire to have better health and quit this addiction is a very powerful force which can move a patient in a really good direction.

You need to ask yourself just why you would like to quit. There might even be multiple reasons that you should post where you can see them.

Remind yourself every day why you’re making this particular choice. All the hypnosis treatment, nicotine gum, and acupuncture in the world isn’t going to make you tobacco-free unless you have genuinely reconciled that this is going to happen. Even when you truly dedicate yourself to quitting smoking, you might still have an occasional relapse and smoke again.

Go easy on yourself, because this is definitely a process that is going to take a while. Consider yourself a practicing non-smoker instead of thinking that you are going to quit cold turkey and won’t ever smoke again. It’s good to avoid having any unreasonable expectations of yourself.

Some studies indicate that people can crave cigarettes as long as 25 years after they smoke. Instead of feeling like quitting just isn’t possible, think about cutting down on how many you smoke and changing your life slowly. Eventually, smoking won’t fit into your self-image or your life. Addictions happen thanks to an evolutionary feedback loop necessary for survival. If a person has a pleasant experience, then their brain will record that positive feedback, sending them looking for even more of that pleasant experience.

People who get addicted to smoking usually don’t have less self-control than others; in truth, they might even have a memory feedback loop that’s stronger than others.

Acupuncture is something that can help break this cycle so that you can come up with with a new sensory feedback cycle that is positive.